December 16 – Friendship How has a friend changed you or your perspective on the world this year? Was this change gradual, or a sudden burst?
I thought that making friends was a skill I'd lost somewhere after high school… it had fallen by the wayside, and while I kept in touch with quite a few people from my school days, making new friends was proving challenging.
After Max was born, I was desperate for some “Mommy friends” and in an effort to gain some, I joined a message board aimed at local moms… I had only moderate success in really clicking with anyone beyond “Hey! A bunch of us are taking the kids to the park! Everyone's invited!” sort of things. But this particular group of women has been chatting together since before they were married; their interactions are a tough nut to crack, so I kind of stepped back and stopped trying quite so hard. There are still more than a few women I've met on there who I like quite a lot, and who I've had perfectly fine conversations with, at various playdates and GNOs.
But really, I've only made one real friend. (Well, 2, but the other one lives in Sacramento, so she doesn't really “work” for the purposes of this post! LOL)
Only one person who emails or texts me, asking if I want to grab a of coffee on a dreary Saturday morning.
Who drove 30 miles from her house to visit me in the hospital in July and make me laugh through my pain, thanks to her Jacob (from Twilight) action figure.
She gets my jokes, my snark and my infatuation with young adult literature.
She acknowledges that my kid is cuter than hers. (OK, not really, but I wanted to make sure you're still reading!)
This year, she has shown me that I can still make friends, and for that, I am eternally grateful.
wholly jeanne says
friends like this are measured in rarity not quantity. and for the record, when it comes to being friends, i'm quite sure you give as good as you get.